The deep belief that has emerged while coaching teams is that my main job as a coach is the mastery of self, the internal work, the work of self. How can one replicate externally what doesn’t exist internally?, like the ripple effect of a stone thrown into the water.
Brene Brown mentions ‘Who we are is how we lead’ and as a coach I would say ‘we create authentically what lives within’. I find myself creating trusted and safe environments to ask the powerful questions.
However, if I would lack of self-trust how could I provide to others what I lack? So the main question seems to be…What within me needs to grow, develop, stretch or shift to have a broader impact in a coaching relationship and teams?
Therefore, the coaching cornerstones (deep beliefs) that serve me best are: CURIOSITY to be able to dance in the moment, HUMILITY to always learn, MASTERY OF SELF to always grow, and linking each corner COMPASSION.
I really like Kim Scott’s definition of compassion as ‘empathy in action’.
Similarly in a team setting in addition to mastery of self, equally important is mastery of team-awareness. Meeting a team where they are at and verbalizing the emotional field (the energy in between the team).
Some powerful questions:
- What is wanting to emerge from this team?
- What are the patterns?
- What is the emotional field like here?
- And what are the underlying assumptions being made?
“Owning the value you offer the world creates a ripple effect around you” – Marie Forleo